Ignorance

I was shopping today and happened to strike up a conversation with one of the workers in the hardware store and explained that my husband had just deployed and I had no idea what tools I needed for a particular job and would need to have pretty much everything explained to me. She began to ask me pretty personal questions about his being gone. In general, I don't mind explaining our lifestyle. People don't know and sometimes have a general interest in how the Army effects even every day life. I was incredibly insulted, however, when she switched the topic to sex. She flat out asked me if I would miss it while he's gone and made the comment that she couldn't go that long without it. WHAT?!? Who asks that  kind of question and what in the world did she expect my answer to be. After promptly telling her that my sex life was between me and my husband she seemed to get the hint and mentioned that being an Army wife is like being single without the possibility of sex and then stopped talking altogether. Needless to say, I was thankful for the silence.

This just makes my blood boil. Please don't ever pose an insensitive question like that to a military spouse. Yes, of course we miss physical intimacy with our husbands, but more so, we miss the everyday of a kiss on the forehead or a squeeze of your hand. I even miss the fact that he usually does the dishes. I just want him to come home safely, so yes I miss things, but my focus isn't on my physical desires, merely on him coming back to me in one piece.  Also, don't ask the question "Aren't you afraid he'll be killed?" Yes, of course I'm terrified of that and thank you so kindly for ruining whatever I was doing and making me focus on this fear again. As a military spouse, you really just can't think about this or you'll drive yourself crazy with worry. So, don't be stupid and ask such an ignorant question because it's in no way helpful and only makes me hate your guts.

That's my two cents for the day.

People can be so ignorant.

I just have to take a second to vent. I am so incredibly frustrated that people can be so close minded.

As you know, I am a veterinary technician and care deeply for animals. Not only do I have two dogs, a cat, and a rabbit of my own, but I frequently rescue animals who are going to be euthanized at the local animal control and nurse them back to health until they can be placed in a forever home. All these animals need is time and love to become the perfect pets. Unfortunately, animal control doesn't have the time or capability to do this. I rescue those that I can, but sadly many are put to sleep every day. I can't save them all.

People are so ignorant when it comes to Animal Control and cats and dogs "from the pound". It makes me crazy when people tell me that they don't want to rescue an animal from the pound because it will have issues. Another thing I hear a lot is that people want a "pure bred" animal. I can't change these people's minds despite the fact that I try.

Another type of ignorant person is that person who breeds their animals for no reason other than to make money. There are so many breeders of pit bulls down here. It makes me so mad. If one of them could look at all the sad faces of pit bulls who will never be adopted down at animal control, I would hope they would stop breeding, but they won't ever know. They choose to stay ignorant while countless lives are being lost due to this overpopulation and mistreatment by humans. UGH!!! So MAD!!!

I wish I could scream it from the rooftops and make the world unserstand that the way some people treat and think about these animals as disposable is WRONG! One of my own dogs, Peach, a 1 1/2 year old Chihuahua was treated in this way. She was purchased by a woman for about $1200 and was taken care of until about her first birthday. Her owner decided to take her, her "outfits", and all her paperwork down to the local animal control. The reason she gave for giving her up was that she didn't have the time for her. What she didn't care to think about when she dropped her off was that owner surrenedered animals are typically brought straight to the back and euthanized due to lack of space. Luckily for Peach I was there to rescue her. She is truly the sweetest dog and I get emotional when I think about how someone could have ever given up this little angel. She makes my heart smile. How can you turn your back on that?

Ok. I'm done with my rant... I just needed to vent my frustration.